you will never be successful



I don’t think you can handle rejection or failure.
I don’t think you’re capable of conquering your fears.
I don’t think you have what it takes to start your own business.

Notice how you feel when I say those things to you.

Does part of you want to defend yourself?
Does part of you want to prove me wrong?

Well that’s what it feels like to fight for what you’re capable of.

The opposite of that is to fight for your limitations.

“I could never do that…”
“I’m not the type of person who…”
“I’m too afraid of people’s judgement…”
“It’s just part of my nature to be like this…”

It’s also how you become a People Pleaser, a Procrastinator, a Perfectionist etc.

Imagine how different your life would be if you stopped fighting for your limitations and instead started fighting for your empowering beliefs:

“I’m capable of anything…”
“I can conquer any fear...”
“I have what it takes to…”
“I’m f***in awesome at…”

Stop wasting your energy by fighting for the enemy.

Instead start defending yourself and what you’re capable of.

Because just like Henry Ford said:

“Whether you think you can or you can’t, either way you’re right.”

Much love,
Alex

PS: What I’m reading: The Boys in the Boat - Daniel Brown
What I’m watching: Court of Gold
Quote of the week: “You can’t be that kid standing at the top of the waterslide, overthinking it. You have to go down the chute.” - Tina Fey





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