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Alex Ostergaard

You’re not stuck because you’re broken.

Published about 1 month ago • 1 min read

You're stuck because you’re resisting what you feel.
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Most of us were never taught how to feel.
We were taught how to perform.
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We learned to push emotions away.
To hold it together.
To stay strong.
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When sadness comes up, we call it weakness.
When anger surfaces, we label it dangerous.
When fear shows up, we try to control everything around us.
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But that constant suppression?
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It creates tension, overwhelm and the sense of being stuck in your own head.
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Eventually it turns into anxiety, numbness, procrastination... or that nagging feeling that something’s off.
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But the problem isn’t the emotion.
It’s the part of you that thinks you shouldn’t be feeling it.
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And when you stop resisting...
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On the other side of that is space, peace and clarity.
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Not because the emotion disappears.
But because you stop fighting it.
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You’re no longer stuck in it…
or running from it.
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You’re just here, present and available to life again.
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So here's your reminder that:
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You don’t need to be fixed.
You just need to feel.
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Much love,
Alex
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P.S. What I’m reading: The Amazing Development of Men - Alison A. Armstrong
​What I’m watching: Wednesday
​Quote of the week: “One of the most important parts of winning, is being okay losing" - Jack Nicklaus

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PPS: I recently created a Manual for my clients on how to feel and release anger in a healthy way, if you'd like to check it out reply to this email with "Yes Please" and I'll send it your way :)

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