You’re not stuck because you’re broken.


You're stuck because you’re resisting what you feel.

Most of us were never taught how to feel.
We were taught how to perform.

We learned to push emotions away.
To hold it together.
To stay strong.

When sadness comes up, we call it weakness.
When anger surfaces, we label it dangerous.
When fear shows up, we try to control everything around us.

But that constant suppression?

It creates tension, overwhelm and the sense of being stuck in your own head.

Eventually it turns into anxiety, numbness, procrastination... or that nagging feeling that something’s off.

But the problem isn’t the emotion.
It’s the part of you that thinks you shouldn’t be feeling it.

And when you stop resisting...

On the other side of that is space, peace and clarity.

Not because the emotion disappears.
But because you stop fighting it.

You’re no longer stuck in it…
or running from it.

You’re just here, present and available to life again.

So here's your reminder that:

You don’t need to be fixed.
You just need to feel.

Much love,
Alex

P.S. What I’m reading: The Amazing Development of Men - Alison A. Armstrong
What I’m watching: Wednesday
Quote of the week: “One of the most important parts of winning, is being okay losing" - Jack Nicklaus


PPS: I recently created a Manual for my clients on how to feel and release anger in a healthy way, if you'd like to check it out reply to this email with "Yes Please" and I'll send it your way :)



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