you’re not healing


I have some beef with the personal development industry.

Because it tells you to always be improving.
Always be growing.
Always becoming your “best self.”

But that constant focus on improving subtly reinforces one thing:

That who you are right now isn’t enough.

So every insight…
every transformation…
every breakthrough…

Actually ends up deepening the wound and strengthening the very story you’re trying to outgrow.

The result:

You chase a horizon you’ll never reach.
And miss out on the life that’s happening right now.

That's not growth.
That's just spiritual perfectionism.

But true healing doesn’t mean becoming someone new,
it means returning to the version of you that never needed fixing in the first place.

So instead of obsessing over how to improve...

Start obsessing on how to unlearn.
How to raise your awareness.
How to remove old patterns.

So you can finally get out of your own way and let your true self do what it’s always been capable of.

Much love,
Alex

P.S. What I’m reading: Carl's Doomsday Scenario - Matt Dinniman
What I’m watching: Trainwreck - Area 51
Quote of the week: “You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”. – C.S. Lewis


PPS: If you want help uncovering some of your unconscious patters, check this too here.




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