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When I told people about my travel plans last year… Many of them said: “Alex you’re so lucky, I wish I could do the same”. Often followed by a list of all the reasons why they aren’t so lucky. As a result, I started feeling guilty about telling people. Like I was bragging about my good fortune. Like all my plans were down to luck. But it’s easy for others to think it’s lucky. When all they see now is the cool destinations and the nomad lifestyle. What they don’t see is all it took over the last 5 years to make this a reality: -The thousands of rejections (Some of this still being present today) So YES I am lucky. I’m lucky to have made a change 5 years ago. I’m lucky to be married to an incredible wife who was brave enough to leave her job and follow me on this crazy adventure. But my plans for this year aren’t down to luck. They’re because: They’re because: They’re because: And I’m so grateful to my past self for taking that leap. I’m so grateful for investing in a coach and changing the course of my life. So here’s a confronting question for you today: If you continue on the same trajectory you are now, what will your life look like 5 years from now? And if you don't like what you see, what will you do about it? Much love, PS: What I’m reading: Psycho-Cybernetics - Maxwell Maltz |
Alex Ostergaard
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