I moved 9649km to chase a better lifestyle

Published 21 days ago • 1 min read

But here’s what came with me:

-The guilt I feel when I rest
-The shame that creeps in when I say no
-The overthinking after delivering a workshop
-The urge to prove myself through productivity
-The tension that never lets me slow down
-The fear that if I stop, it’ll all fall apart

These things didn’t disappear just because I changed countries.

They don’t disappear when you change jobs, cities or relationship status either.

But here’s what did change:
How I relate to them.

I’m no longer at war with myself.
I’ve stopped trying to outrun these patterns and started learning how to be with them.

Six years ago, I took a similar trip.
But that time, I was running away.
Hoping a change of scene would mean a change of self.

It didn’t.

What made the difference wasn’t the move.
It was the inner work.

The breakthroughs came when I stopped trying to run away and started changing the way I relate to myself.

Through coaching, I faced what I’d spent years avoiding.

And now, I get to live and travel with so much more freedom.

So if you’re planning your next escape…
Just make sure it includes coming home to yourself.

Much love,
Alex

PS: What I’m reading: The disappearance of Stephanie Mailer - Joel Dicker
What I’m watching: Silicon Valley Season 1
Quote of the week: “If I had to live my life again, I’d make the same mistakes, only sooner.” - Tallulah Bankhead

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