I couldn’t ignore the screaming anymore


Exhaustion isn’t weakness.
It's a message.

Your mind can ignore it.
Your calendar can override it.

But your body will always tell the truth.

At first it whispers: fatigue, tension, headaches.
Then it gets louder: insomnia, burnout, illness.

And if you still don’t listen, it will scream.

Because your body doesn’t care about your deadlines.

It doesn’t care about your image.
It doesn’t care about who you think you need to be.

It cares about survival.

For Sensitive High Achievers, this is the hardest lesson.
We’ve been conditioned to push through.

To chase approval instead of listening inward.
To treat exhaustion like weakness instead of wisdom.

But here’s the paradox:

The more you fight your body, the more it fights back.

The moment you learn to listen, to slow down, to feel… is the moment you start to heal.

Your body is not the enemy.
It’s the compass.

Much love,
Alex

P.S. What I’m reading: Understanding Women by Alison Armstrong
What I’m watching: SEC Any give Saturday
Quote of the week: “There’s nothing either good not bad, only thinking makes it so” - Shakespeare



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