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how to not die
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Whether you like it or not: Suffering is one of the inherent parts of life. It’s inevitable. And if you don’t believe me, consider this: Every person that you love is going to die at some point. F**king hell Alex, that’s a bit morbid. I know, I know… But the point I’m trying to make is that suffering is going to happen whether you like it or not. And one of the keys to living a fulfilling life isn’t to avoid suffering but to pursue meaning that justifies the level of suffering you’re going to face regardless. Meaning isn’t a “Nice to have” in life. It’s essential. When you don’t have meaning, you slowly die on the inside. That’s what Benjamin Franklin meant when he said: “Most people die at 25 but aren’t buried until they’re 75”. Because they end up “going through the motions”....working jobs they don’t care about, staying in unfulfilling relationships, living for the weekend and distracting themselves from deeper dissatisfaction. They slowly die on the inside. But meaning isn’t something you find, it’s something you create. It’s created in the process of discovering who you really are (your values, your strengths, your vision, your passions…) and taking action that’s aligned with your authentic self. It’s created by contributing to something bigger than yourself. By cultivating deep and meaningful relationships. Life is going to suck at times. You’re going to suffer. But it’s you’re responsible to make that suffering worth it. Much love, PS: What I’m reading: The Truth about the Harry Quebert Affair - Joël Dicker |
Alex Ostergaard
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