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this is killing your self-esteem
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It’s something you might do without noticing. Something that slowly chips away at your self-confidence. It’s a silent but deadly enemy called: Breaking promises to yourself. Sound familiar? “I’ll get back to you on Friday” Every time you say you’ll do something and you don’t: You slowly erode the relationship between you and your word. And by doing that you decrease the chances of the things you say actually becoming reality. Self-belief is one of the rewards you get for keeping commitments to yourself. So if you want to increase your Self-esteem: Start by strengthening the bond between your words and your actions. Only commit to things you know you will follow through on. And it starts with the small things: -Be on time Align what you say and what you do so closely: That your words nearly always become reality. That way self-doubt won’t have much room left in your life. Much love, PS: What I’m reading: The Art of Motorcycle Maintenance - Robert Pirsig |
Alex Ostergaard
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