overthinking



The title of this email is misleading.

Because you don’t need to control overthinking.

Overthinking IS a form of control.

And you need control because:

Deep down, you don’t trust yourself.

You don’t trust that you can handle the big, uncomfortable feelings that might show up if things go wrong.

So, what do you do?

You plan.
You strategize.
You obsess over every possible scenario.

But here’s the thing:

You don’t need more plans.
You don't need more control.

What you actually need is:

To know that YOU’ll be there for YOU regardless of what happens.

That YOU will have your own back if things go wrong.

Overthinking doesn’t prevent bad things from happening. It just drains your energy.

What if, instead, you decided to trust yourself?

Trust that no matter what happens, you’ll figure it out.

Because you’ve always figured it out.

And connecting to that the feeling of trust is the only way to stop your overthinking.

Because overthinking can’t be solved with more thinking.

It’s solved with the deeper knowing that you’ll be able to handle whatever comes your way.

Much love,
Alex

PS: What I’m reading: The Boys in the Boat - Daniel James Brown
What I’m watching: 6 Nations Rugby
Quote of the week: “You gotta be fine even if you're not gonna be fine. Isn't it better to just exist thinking you're gonna be fine until it's not fine? And when it's not fine, then you can just f*ckin handle it then. There no sense to ruin it right now.” - Bill Burr






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