I’ve been fighting this virus for years now



There’s a particularly nasty group of viruses out there.

Viruses that influence your thinking.

They influence how you see the world.
They influence your emotional state.
They influence your general mood.

They are everywhere yet no one is talking about them:

Memetic viruses.

Contagious beliefs that hijack your thinking.

These thought-viruses can come from anywhere:

The news, social media, your parents, friends, colleagues, teachers, even well-meaning mentors…

And once they’re in your mind, they’ll shape how you see the world.

You don’t choose them… you catch them.

And if you don’t examine them, they’ll quietly shape your entire life.

“You’re falling behind”
“The world is going to hell”
“The economy will never recover”
“You have to work hard to deserve money”
“A stable job is more important than fulfillment.”
“You should be further along right now”
“It’s selfish to put yourself first.”
“You can’t trust anyone”

Every conversation you have, every scroll, every post you look at, every headline you read is subtly reprogramming your mind.

And in today’s society so much of it is geared towards:

-Fear
-Outrage
-Victimhood
-External validation
-Unhealthy comparison
-Staying small
-Distraction
-Shame

How good do you feel after a one hour doom scroll?
Or 15 mins of watching the news?
Or speaking to someone who constantly complains?

That’s not just energy… that’s influence.

It’s entering your brain and shaping how you see the world.

It’s never been more important to protect yourself against these thinking viruses.

-Curate what you allow into your brain (people, media, content)
-Spend time with people who elevate your thinking
-Question beliefs that feel “normal” but don’t serve you

You have the power to decide what ideas get to take root in your mind.

And when you protect your attention:

You also protect your potential.

Much love,
Alex

PS: What I’m reading: Klara and the Sun by Kazuo Ishiguro
What I’m watching: Full Swing
Quote of the week: “The greatest burden that a child must bear is the unlived life of the parents” Carl Jung

PPS: This Tuesday I did a Linkedin Live on "How to Escape the Overthinking Trap" you can check it out here.





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